Great Sex with Erectile Dysfunction

Over 30 million men in the US are dealing with erectile dysfunction (ED) and are unable to sustain an erection to have sex. This could be due to age, prostate cancer, diabetes or other illness, physical damage (e.g. car accident) or even medication which causes ED. But the end result is often the same: a degrading or nonexistent sex life. This does not have to be the case. While it would be great if the medical community addressed this issue, it is unlikely that patients will be offered some type of coaching or counseling to help them maintain or reestablish their sex life.

Even if you cannot have intercourse (penis in vagina sex) there are still many sex acts which you can participate in such as Tantric body and sexual massage, oral sex, manual stimulation, etc. If you have some function, you can work with your lover to receive pleasure based on the abilities you do have.

Communication is very important. Your lover needs to understand how your are feeling, your current abilities and frustration levels and how you envision maintaining a sex life. Set goals together to communicate and to have sex. Plan fun romantic dates that include role play, sexy foods or even sex toys! Read romance or erotic novels together. Erotic novels tend to have more explicit sexual scenes which might be a turn on for both of you. Increase your time spent on foreplay. Make intimacy which includes hugs, kissing, squeezes and maybe even a few light butt slaps a regular part of daily time together. If anything you are reading today is new to you, consider adding them into your bag of tricks! Just click on blog above for many new ideas.

Remember, your lover may be frustrated even it is not outwardly visible. We are sexual beings so it will be up to you to make sure you are not being sexually selfish. Give your lover great oral sex. Learn to use your hands to give your lover orgasms. Know the different g-spot techniques so she can have multiple orgasms. There will be times when you may not “feel like it” or your situation may be such that you do not want sex at all. Still, take care of your lover and express your love through regular intimacy and by gifting a few orgasms.

Would you like help maneuvering through this stressful time? Have you given up on a great sex life but are realizing now it is not too late, your sex life doesn’t have to be over? Dr. Harris offers private coaching by phone and 3-month programs. Persons in relationship with someone who has ED are also encouraged to get help to learn how to provide support and help maintain a great sex life. You can go here to sign up for an appointment:¬†https://www.simplyappointments.com/dr-harris/ Save Save

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Baby Tell Me Your Fantasies

Woman whispering in his ear

Take some time outside of the bedroom to share fantasies with each other. Start with simple fantasies that can be easily shared and added to your sexual repertoire! Sex outside, in a different part of the house (or someone else’s house) or new positions can be a lot of fun. Surprise each other and plan fantasy dates! If one of you wants role play, then plan for costumes, props or whatever it takes to make it seem real! Just be careful not to scare each other with a robbery or kidnapping!! Throw some hints first or discuss plans.

Once you have played around with basic fantasy play, take it to the next level revealing more intimate and freaky desires. What is so taboo that neither of you have never discussed with anyone? What fetishes do you have? How does she want to be ravaged? What would he like her to do to him when he submits to her? Telling the truth can be hard sometimes, and maybe even scary. But just think of the fun you would have if your fantasies were fulfilled?

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Time to Hit the Books

Today’s erotica is not your mother’s or grandmother’s romance novel! If you haven’t picked up on the erotica craze yet, you are truly missing out. There is definitely something for everyone! A number of years ago I signed up to receive email newsletters from an erotica website which allowed customers to purchase inexpensive short stories and download pdfs or ebook reader files. To my amazement there were hundreds! The store rates the books on a heat scale from 1-5 hot peppers (ranging from vanilla love scenes to explicit, graphic sex and language) and lists so many categories it still blows my mind! There are gay male books with hunky sweaty men on the covers. There are books about interracial relationships and rubenesque women. There is even a clean and wholesome category but I wouldn’t know anything about that!

Don’t want to fantasize about humans? No problem. Your sexy hot lover could be from another world and could accommodate human females with two penises. Maybe that is too far out for you so your erotica could involve werewolves or shape shifters! But of course, there is always old fashioned hetero-erotica with bondage, threesomes, anal, horror, steampunk, historical characters and more! And the great part is you get to sample excerpts so you can determine if you are interested. Checkout https://www.allromanceebooks.com, visit your local bookstore and see what your local sex shop offers.

Once you choose a few books, read to each other. I promise these fantasy books will get you all hot and bothered and give you some new things to try in the bedroom!

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